Yes, on the one hand I am tired of reading articles about getting myself ‘beach ready’ (ie: skinny, tanned and hairless) or how to lose a ludicrous amount of weight in a short space of time. But on the other hand, I am equally sick of being told that I’m beautiful as I am. That I should ’embrace’ my curves and celebrate the wonder of my human body.
I get it. Women are sick to death of being told they’re not good enough and they’re fighting back. But to me, simply trying to invert it and commanding women to love themselves is just as oppressive and unrealistic. And it also doesn’t change the conversation. The assumption still remains that we want to ‘beautiful’ – all we are doing is trying to change what that looks like.
So instead, how about us all just relaxing a bit? How we look certainly means something, but it doesn’t mean everything and it’s definitely more complex than whether or not we or anyone else thinks we’re ‘beautiful’ or how much we love our wobbly thighs. It’s also a lot more interesting. Rather than trying to love ourselves, accepting ourselves feels more realistic and achievable to me.
This doesn’t mean never talking about our appearance, the food we eat, the exercise we do or the make-up we use. It just means accepting that these are not solely tools in an impossible quest to achieve some elusive level of either perfection or self-acceptance – both of which I would wager are well out of reach for most of us. There are so many other angles to these topics.
Replacing feeling bad about your body with loving your body means we’re still talking about the same thing. As Don Draper says ‘if you don’t like what is being said, then change the conversation.’ So don’t love your body. Instead, let’s change the conversation.
What do you think? Let me know by leaving a comment below.